Francis Githinji asked:


Making friends is an art and, you will need to learn some of the things that it takes to get the art. The art of making friends unlike what many think is not complicated at all. You will need to look for vital tips that will actually guide you. To make good friends, we need to be guided and, the following are some of the secrets that will see you learn the art and make the friends that you want and deserve. First, before you say you deserve good friends, it is vital to look at what you are like. Your behavior and mannerisms are directly linked to the kind of people you draw in your life to be your friends. In other words, you will make friends who are just like you. The art of making good friends is about looking for good friends because you are worth good friends. There are no two ways about it and, you will see this to be true in your life. There are other factors that come to play while learning the art and they include the following.

The art of making friends will depend on the age you are at. Your gender will also shape the kind of friendships you get into. Above all, your personality is the key to make friends as we have mentioned earlier. If you are the kind of person who is introverted, the way you make friends will actually be different from the way others make friends. There are several things that will guide you on how exactly you can master the art of making friends in your life. After you have considered the kind of person you are, it is time to look at the areas in which you can improve. For example, if you realize that your traits cannot attract anybody, you can change and look for some virtue to incorporate in your life. This is a place where many fail and it has to do with changing. Many will pretend to be something they are not just to get into friendships that will later die. You must be true to yourself to look for real change if you want to make good friends.
The art of making friends will call to a realization that nobody is perfect. You will make good friends who will make mistakes. Mistakes help us to learn and move on. Therefore, when faced with problems, know that they are not unique to you. When you have this in mind, it is good for you to be friendly when you spot a potential friend. Many wait to meet friends by default. You have to take a deliberate step when looking for friends. However, it is good for you to take it easy not to force things. You cannot force yourself to be somebody’s friend and you will realize that it will take a mutual agreement before you take the relationship to a deeper level. The art is not complicated at all and there is one guide that will see you maintain the friendship in the manner you are supposed to. You should treat others the way you would want to be treated. When you keep this in mind, you will always make relationships you are proud of.

Alex Vasilevski asked:


Shy people can find it challenging to make friends especially if they are amongst people they don’t know. Would you like to have the skills to start conversation and make friends with total strangers? It is not so difficult and frightening as you think as with little effort and practice you can start right now. Even better once you learn how it will become second nature to you, each time it will be easier, you will overcome shyness and making friends will become pleasure instead of torture.

The first thing to understand is that your shyness can end up being a real gift. Why? Because most of the time, people would rather talk than listen. It is human nature. So if you want to learn how to make friends all you have to know is how to get people to talk to you. Now this is easy once you understand what people like to talk about the most. Themselves.

That’s right, if you want to get people to talk to you just ask them about themselves. Now, of course you are going to run into people who are more private and may be reluctant to do this. In this case, find out what they are interested in and get them to talk about it. Ask how long they have been doing it; ask why they started and why they like it so much. Then just let them go and listen. Knowing how to make friends is all about being able to keep a good conversation going. Get someone to talk about what they are interested in and you’ll hardly have to talk at all. Pretty soon, they’ll wonder the same thing about you. By then it ought to be easy to have your turn.

That said, let me give you a few tips on how to make friends by starting these kinds of conversations and keeping them going:

· Practice talking to people you don’t know:

You can start small and work your way up. Make it a goal today to say hello to at least one person who you don’t know. Do this for one week and then begin to also ask them “How are you today?” Once this becomes a habit, pick two people a day until you are saying this to everyone who you can. You will be surprised at how easy it becomes after some practice.

· Compliment them or ask for their advice

These are both powerful ways to earn someone’s respect right away. Of course, you may not always be in a position to ask someone for advice. That’s when you go for the compliment. Don’t worry about what you are going to say next, the conversation may not go anywhere and that’s OK. The point is that if you get into the habit of doing this that you are going to run into some people who will help move the conversation along.

These simple steps will make a world of difference; just imagine where you could be one year from now! So go ahead and work on putting them into practice. Soon you will learn that knowing how to make friends is something even shy people can learn.

arundhati khopker asked:


Making friends is quite easy if you really try hard but  most important is that you should like him and he should like you. Having similiar like and dislikes is half the battle won. He should be physically appealing, that also means pleasant, nice to talk to and interested in you. You should admire his/her qualities as a person and respect them and vice versa. Meeting one another frequently  is also an important requisite of being a friend to a friend. They say that  a friend is one who is around when the bad times comes and  helps you get over  them.

Why must we have friends? well, since man is an  Asocial animal he/she needs feedback for   doing things the right way and  needs to have an outlet for his views and  opinions.  Our  friends, whom we discuss  topics of current interest  give us an insight into  opinions that we may not agree with. Our  outlook on life broadens and we start to address  various issues in life with a renewed  vigour. We increase our  knowledge and  become popular as an  outgoing person. The more our circle increases  by word of mouth, the better we become as a human being. We can relate to people in our family and outside it with more maturity. 

Our  life would be barren and sad if we did not have friends to talk to, go out  for a picnic, meet in the park or have a meal with them. We have different  levels of relationships with people. Some may be intimate, others may be  aloof, still others could be  cordial, and so on. The way someone relates to us makes us react to them in the same way. The most important thing is to make the most friends and that  can only be achieved by being a natural and as good as one can possibly be. It is the answer to every problem in life.

Bettye Jamerson asked:


In an effort to help young adults achieve their personal best as they began their quest for life graduating from high school and going off to college, it’s more than appropriate to offer words of wisdom as a guideline to assist them in setting boundaries and becoming responsible adults in the absence of the parental control they have become so accustomed to having.

Coming from an environment of imposed discipline, responsibility, and guidance to a totally no holes barred freedom. This is the perfect time to take the opportunity to stop, look and listen to the people around you and get an idea of which ones you want to allow into your life and space, and spending your time with in a relationship.

All of your life before now, your parents were the ones who chose your friends for you and decided who you would hang around with and who you would not—but now it’s all up to you to choose the right people to develop relationships with. Choosing the right people to spend time with can either add to or subtract from our lives, so it is well worth the time it will take to observe and proceed with caution in your people selection.

A word of wisdom for young adults today is, don’t be afraid to be alone. By spending time with yourself, you will be able to identify your likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses, and your wants and needs for the relationships you desire to develop with others—male and females. Believe me I know from first hand experience. When I went off to college, I had lived a very sheltered life where my friends were pretty much chosen for me by my parents. I had not been allowed to date until I was seventeen years old in an effort to protect me. But to my detriment, I had no clue as to how to judge people that I had not been allowed to communicate with resulting in some very traumatic experiences for me. So again, proceed with caution in choosing the people you spend time with.

Remember, not everyone is for you. And you definitely will not be for everyone. There will be people from all walks of life, some good and some not so good. Take the time to meet people on neutral ground and get an idea of the why’s they have prioritized in their life. Never lose site of the fact that ultimately, the goal of everyone in college is to prepare themselves for their call in life. So, by starting out choosing good healthy relationships, you can remain focused on the reason for your being there in the first place.

There was a saying where I came from and it simply stated, “Birds of a feather flock together.” Know that the people you chose to associate yourself with and hang out with, whether you behave like them or not, think like them or not, dress like them or not is usually the way others will perceive, treat and respond to you as they do to them. Know which relationships are good for you, healthy for you, long-term, short-term, too toxic and unhealthy, slated for a friend or should be just an acquaintance. Make it a practice to always set your standards and boundaries in every relationship you establish. This way, you will save yourself the emotional baggage, emotional chaos and guilt when you realize that this was not the relationship for you.

Finally, no man is an island and being a loner is not the answer. I encourage you to invest the time and effort into developing meaningful and healthy relationships with others and always set boundaries at the onset, ensuring that everyone understands as well as respects them. And if they don’t, then this is more than likely not the relationship for you. Some of the relationships you develop at this point in your life will be lifetime relationships of great value to you, so go ahead and start a new life for yourself with people that will love, help, encourage and be there for you unconditionally, no matter what.

Sharon J asked:


Are you bored, lonely and want to make new friends? Do long working hours make it difficult for you to get out and about to meet new people? Maybe you or your friends have moved to a new area and this has left you feeling alone.

Even if you are already the proverbial social butterfly you may still find that your existing friends do not share the same interests and passions that you want to pursue. You may have a satisfying social life, but you still find you have no one to travel with you on that round the world trip. You may have your circle of friends, but find that none of them want to buddy-up for the activities or sports that interest you most. Or perhaps your friends are just not interested in the social scene anymore and you want other singles or couples to socialise with or share a chat over a coffee.

These are just a few of the reasons why millions of people search online to find new friends. Matchmaking websites are fantastic tools to help you make friends online. Profile matching technologies enable you to search for new friends by age, gender, location, interests and much more. You can make friends near you or anywhere in the world and learn about new countries, cultures and lifestyles.

Making friends online is easy and anonymous as members get to know you by your username only. You can contact members by sending private messages, post to discussion forums or share online chat.

When you are ready, you can take your new cyber friendships into the real world by arranging meet-ups to share your common interests. If you prefer to meet in numbers, you can join or create your own Local Groups for members to join to share interests and activities near you.

Alex asked:


Making friends in new town can be quite difficult. Here are the five tips to make it simple.

First, ask someone to be your guide. People love to know that they can do something to help another person. Make it a point to tell people that you are new in town and ask them what they do for fun or what other people around there do for fun. If they are someone who has best friend potential, they are eventually going to extend an invitation.

Second, find something to get involved in which will connect you with other people. Just be sure that it is something which will keep your interest. This can be a church, a book club, or some type of volunteer organization. Anything where you actually have the chance to interact with other people. When you arrive make a note of who is there and find out how long they have been there and one thing which they are interested in.

The third step is a powerful follow up to step two: Introduce people to other people. This means that anyone whom you meet at a second or third meeting who is new, introduce them to the people who have been there for a while. When doing this, tell each one of them something about the other one, just to break the ice.

Fourth, begin to initiate meetings outside of the club or organization. Make the primary purpose of these meetings helping people to connect. The most powerful way to make new friends is to be a person who connects other people.

Finally, develop a plan for how to stay in touch with people. It is not enough to just drop them a line or an email when you remember. Set up your calendar and make your connections consistent and have them on a schedule. Eventually people will begin to build the expectation of hearing from you on a certain time or day. When you contact them, ask about what is going in their life instead of talking about yourself.

Francis Githinji asked:


Tips on how to make friends will guide you on how you can go about looking for people who can compliment your life. Life is all about compliments and people who make your life better or worthwhile are worth being your friends. It is a high time you stop making friends out of luck or speculation. To make friends, you need to plan for it and know exactly what you want. Many times, people come in our lives and we have no otherwise than to be close to them. It is vital to realize that you are under no obligation to be in a friendship with someone you do not even like. Therefore, friendship is a choice you make and, you need to trust yourself to make the right decision. Before you even know how to make good friends, you need to know some of the things that can give you an edge to make a lasting relationship.

The first thing is you; your character and your values. Before you meet anyone, you need to establish that there is no way you can meet great friends if you are not great. In other words, people will get what they deserve because they attract those who are similar to them. Since we all want to have great friends in out lives, we need to look for ways to become what we want. To make friends, you need to get rid of the clutter and junk in your system. Look at whatever is holding you back and decide to become better. If you deal with the issue of jealousy or selfishness, acknowledge your flaws and seek ways to overcome. To make friends, you must learn to appreciate the role of friends and the value they have in our lives. Many are going through lives saying that they do not need anybody. To the contrary, we need friends and they need us. The business of life cannot exist without true friendship. It is vital for you to notice that I’m not talking about perfection; there is no perfection.

To make friends, you need to look at things from a positive perspective. It is no wonder that most people who do not have friends are grumpy and full of negativity. In life, whatever you dream will come to be and, when you envision prosperity and success in regard to friendship, your dream will come true. After you have dealt with yourself, you will come to the easy part. When you notice potential friends, be open and friendly. This is the way we all make good friends and there is nothing complicated about it. Even if they do not wish to talk to you, you have nothing to loose; you want friends who are open minded and fun after all. Sometimes, we do not get what we expect and our hopes and expectation in friends can be watered down. Take such experiences to strengthen your will and, to realize how true friendship is important. Chances are that you will find friends who are just like you.