Bettye Jamerson asked:


In an effort to help young adults achieve their personal best as they began their quest for life graduating from high school and going off to college, it’s more than appropriate to offer words of wisdom as a guideline to assist them in setting boundaries and becoming responsible adults in the absence of the parental control they have become so accustomed to having.

Coming from an environment of imposed discipline, responsibility, and guidance to a totally no holes barred freedom. This is the perfect time to take the opportunity to stop, look and listen to the people around you and get an idea of which ones you want to allow into your life and space, and spending your time with in a relationship.

All of your life before now, your parents were the ones who chose your friends for you and decided who you would hang around with and who you would not—but now it’s all up to you to choose the right people to develop relationships with. Choosing the right people to spend time with can either add to or subtract from our lives, so it is well worth the time it will take to observe and proceed with caution in your people selection.

A word of wisdom for young adults today is, don’t be afraid to be alone. By spending time with yourself, you will be able to identify your likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses, and your wants and needs for the relationships you desire to develop with others—male and females. Believe me I know from first hand experience. When I went off to college, I had lived a very sheltered life where my friends were pretty much chosen for me by my parents. I had not been allowed to date until I was seventeen years old in an effort to protect me. But to my detriment, I had no clue as to how to judge people that I had not been allowed to communicate with resulting in some very traumatic experiences for me. So again, proceed with caution in choosing the people you spend time with.
Remember, not everyone is for you. And you definitely will not be for everyone. There will be people from all walks of life, some good and some not so good. Take the time to meet people on neutral ground and get an idea of the why’s they have prioritized in their life. Never lose site of the fact that ultimately, the goal of everyone in college is to prepare themselves for their call in life. So, by starting out choosing good healthy relationships, you can remain focused on the reason for your being there in the first place.

There was a saying where I came from and it simply stated, “Birds of a feather flock together.” Know that the people you chose to associate yourself with and hang out with, whether you behave like them or not, think like them or not, dress like them or not is usually the way others will perceive, treat and respond to you as they do to them. Know which relationships are good for you, healthy for you, long-term, short-term, too toxic and unhealthy, slated for a friend or should be just an acquaintance. Make it a practice to always set your standards and boundaries in every relationship you establish. This way, you will save yourself the emotional baggage, emotional chaos and guilt when you realize that this was not the relationship for you.

Finally, no man is an island and being a loner is not the answer. I encourage you to invest the time and effort into developing meaningful and healthy relationships with others and always set boundaries at the onset, ensuring that everyone understands as well as respects them. And if they don’t, then this is more than likely not the relationship for you. Some of the relationships you develop at this point in your life will be lifetime relationships of great value to you, so go ahead and start a new life for yourself with people that will love, help, encourage and be there for you unconditionally, no matter what.

Malcolm Moorhouse asked:


The direct translation of the word “clairvoyance” is “clear sight”.It is defined as the ability to perceive or even see with the “mind’s eye” something that is going on in a remote location without any previous knowledge of the event. Most paranormal professionals and enthusiasts believe that psychic ability resides (albeit unlocked) within every human being. Their belief is that most people do not tap into their clairvoyance because they are either too unaware or unwilling to unveil it, and that it takes perseverance to develop one’s own personal psychic abilities. In other words, everyone has a second sight but it has to be awakened. Don’t worry – you don’t have to obtain a tarot reading or call a psychic phone reading line. It just takes some introspection.

There are two basic types of clairvoyant abilities – voluntary and involuntary. Voluntary clairvoyance is generally seen as a good, positive thing whereas involuntary is usually considered dark, negative, and possibly even dangerous. Most psychics maintain that voluntary clairvoyance is obtained through good, healthy, and generous living, plus the willingness to reach deep within one’s own psyche and see invisible things. Involuntary clairvoyance is forced upon its victim, and the person has no control over when and where it happens. In this state, the involuntarily clairvoyant person is generally believed to be open to malevolent spiritual influences and may face the danger of being totally possessed by a malicious being.

Many people trying to develop their clairvoyant abilities tend to assume that once they have had a breakthrough, they will now know everything that is going to happen for the rest of their lives. Learned psychics urge: This is not the truth! It takes caution and proper cultivation of the psychic abilities to have a healthy connection to the unseen world. It is also important not to push your limits or the limits of the unseen energy surrounding you. People who study the paranormal insist that to do so is to play with fire and possibly invite dark influences into your life. These people usually put it something like this: In the physical world, things are not as subject to change as they are in the unseen world or – as some call it – the world of desires. Because of this, professional clairvoyants and studiers of the paranormal world insist that people serious about developing their clairvoyance be trained before they try anything too advanced.

Many parapsychologists suggest that human beings are born clairvoyant and most remain so at least for the first year of life. Dependent on his or her environment and his or her own development of personal spirituality, the child may maintain this increased level of sensitivity or see it diminish, if not disappear entirely. These psychics suggest that it takes positive clairvoyance to truly and accurately interpret the unseen world, and warn against the accidental cultivation of negative energy and involuntary or negative clairvoyance that invite negativity and evil influences into the lives of everyone involved.

Clairaudience is a similar type of psychic ability, except that it entails hearing things that are otherwise invisible or inaudible to other people. Considered by many psychics to be the voices of spirits in another world, most people claim to hear the voices in their minds or “inside” their heads, rather than through their physical ears – although some claim to hear as though it were from the physical world, despite the lack of a sensory source.