Alex Vasilevski asked:


Shy people can find it challenging to make friends especially if they are amongst people they don’t know. Would you like to have the skills to start conversation and make friends with total strangers? It is not so difficult and frightening as you think as with little effort and practice you can start right now. Even better once you learn how it will become second nature to you, each time it will be easier, you will overcome shyness and making friends will become pleasure instead of torture.

The first thing to understand is that your shyness can end up being a real gift. Why? Because most of the time, people would rather talk than listen. It is human nature. So if you want to learn how to make friends all you have to know is how to get people to talk to you. Now this is easy once you understand what people like to talk about the most. Themselves.

That’s right, if you want to get people to talk to you just ask them about themselves. Now, of course you are going to run into people who are more private and may be reluctant to do this. In this case, find out what they are interested in and get them to talk about it. Ask how long they have been doing it; ask why they started and why they like it so much. Then just let them go and listen. Knowing how to make friends is all about being able to keep a good conversation going. Get someone to talk about what they are interested in and you’ll hardly have to talk at all. Pretty soon, they’ll wonder the same thing about you. By then it ought to be easy to have your turn.

That said, let me give you a few tips on how to make friends by starting these kinds of conversations and keeping them going:

· Practice talking to people you don’t know:
You can start small and work your way up. Make it a goal today to say hello to at least one person who you don’t know. Do this for one week and then begin to also ask them “How are you today?” Once this becomes a habit, pick two people a day until you are saying this to everyone who you can. You will be surprised at how easy it becomes after some practice.

· Compliment them or ask for their advice

These are both powerful ways to earn someone’s respect right away. Of course, you may not always be in a position to ask someone for advice. That’s when you go for the compliment. Don’t worry about what you are going to say next, the conversation may not go anywhere and that’s OK. The point is that if you get into the habit of doing this that you are going to run into some people who will help move the conversation along.

These simple steps will make a world of difference; just imagine where you could be one year from now! So go ahead and work on putting them into practice. Soon you will learn that knowing how to make friends is something even shy people can learn.

Francis Githinji asked:


Tips on how to make friends will guide you on how you can go about looking for people who can compliment your life. Life is all about compliments and people who make your life better or worthwhile are worth being your friends. It is a high time you stop making friends out of luck or speculation. To make friends, you need to plan for it and know exactly what you want. Many times, people come in our lives and we have no otherwise than to be close to them. It is vital to realize that you are under no obligation to be in a friendship with someone you do not even like. Therefore, friendship is a choice you make and, you need to trust yourself to make the right decision. Before you even know how to make good friends, you need to know some of the things that can give you an edge to make a lasting relationship.

The first thing is you; your character and your values. Before you meet anyone, you need to establish that there is no way you can meet great friends if you are not great. In other words, people will get what they deserve because they attract those who are similar to them. Since we all want to have great friends in out lives, we need to look for ways to become what we want. To make friends, you need to get rid of the clutter and junk in your system. Look at whatever is holding you back and decide to become better. If you deal with the issue of jealousy or selfishness, acknowledge your flaws and seek ways to overcome. To make friends, you must learn to appreciate the role of friends and the value they have in our lives. Many are going through lives saying that they do not need anybody. To the contrary, we need friends and they need us. The business of life cannot exist without true friendship. It is vital for you to notice that I’m not talking about perfection; there is no perfection.

To make friends, you need to look at things from a positive perspective. It is no wonder that most people who do not have friends are grumpy and full of negativity. In life, whatever you dream will come to be and, when you envision prosperity and success in regard to friendship, your dream will come true. After you have dealt with yourself, you will come to the easy part. When you notice potential friends, be open and friendly. This is the way we all make good friends and there is nothing complicated about it. Even if they do not wish to talk to you, you have nothing to loose; you want friends who are open minded and fun after all. Sometimes, we do not get what we expect and our hopes and expectation in friends can be watered down. Take such experiences to strengthen your will and, to realize how true friendship is important. Chances are that you will find friends who are just like you.