“sparkling” Spirits Surround Miranda Since Childhood
Martha Jette asked:
Miranda Clearwell of southeast Missouri was just a child when she first heard voices in her head and realized that there were “sparkling figures” around her or following her.
As she grew into a young girl, it became so natural to her that she thought everyone experienced these kinds of things.
“I just thought they were extra friends for me that I couldn’t see or talk to directly,” said Miranda.
But she soon learned that her friends at school didn’t have similar experiences and she found it very upsetting. In fact, her friends warned her that such entities must mean trouble and she should be careful.
“For a time, I thought I must be crazy,” Miranda explained. “None of my friends knew anything that could help me.” In fact she added, many of them “became upset with me.”
Her experiences began as a youngster, when she realized the presence of the entities and that things in her room would move around as well. Miranda said she could also sense a lot of negative energy in the family home and it would grow unusually dark.
“Even when the sun was coming through (a window), the house could become dark,” she explained adding that this frightened her. “That was when I started feeling a presence very strongly and then there were multiple presences.”
While most of the house gave her an eerie feeling, she said her own room felt “warm and safe.”
The first time Miranda actually saw a “sparkling figure,” she was 19 years old and it sat right on her bed!
“I could see his outline,” she said adding that he appeared to be about six feet tall and “wearing clothing that fit somewhat close to his body. It looked like smoky water,” but was easily recognizable as a man. It also looked like he was “radiating some of it… I couldn’t see anything within the outer lines of the body, so I didn’t see a face or eyes or colors. He was all clear.”
Miranda said he walked like a normal person and then “sat on the edge of my bed facing me, while I was standing up in the center of the room. Once I spotted him, I moved close enough to sit on the bed in front of him.”
At this point, she was very excited, because she had never actually seen a spirit before. She was also quite afraid.
“Of course, my heart was beating out of my chest because it was a little bit scary, but in a miraculous way.”
“When I raised my hands in front of me, he raised his own and touched them to mine.”
Miranda said his hands felt “almost like fuzzy liquid.”
“He stayed like that until my eyes blurred with tears and he was gone.”
Miranda said she was “surprised by the experience, but his simple gesture was very touching…”
Since then, she has seen as many as seven of these figures in her room at one time, but the problem is: she isn’t sure what or who they are or why they keep coming around her. Miranda said she has spoken to the entities and upon a number of occasions, asked questions and received the answers in her mind – answers that were later confirmed.
“Me and my little brother used to walk around that lot all the time and we’d find useless things like rusted washers, metal silverware and plenty of burned things.”
Just this past week, she learned from her mother that an elderly couple had lived there.
“The wife was considered an invalid and was stuck in a wheelchair. Her husband set the fire and left her inside knowing that she couldn’t get out. My mother said she died in that fire and that the man went to prison for murder.”
I suggested that perhaps these two people might be among the many spirits that seem to cling to her. Perhaps that dark entity is the husband. However, Miranda’s story suggests that she may also have spirit guides or even angels close to her. Not only do they help her with her problems, but they also bring her comfort.
“I feel so attached to these spirits now,” she said.
Her only desire is that she would like to learn to communicate more effectively with her visitors from the other side. If anyone has suggestions for her, please let me know.
As well, Miranda said the presence of spirits around her has caused her to re-evaluate her personal beliefs. As a child, she was raised as a Christian to believe that with death, one goes to either heaven or hell.
“That was what everyone wanted me to believe,” she said. “I was never raised to believe that souls could still wander the earth after death, so it was startling to see that something was following me around.”
Now, Miranda says she believes strongly in life after death.
“I do believe that the soul is eternal and I also believe that if a person still has something they need to accomplish, God could allow them to remain behind for a while.”
She also thinks God might allow certain souls to remain earthbound for a time “to watch over their relatives or friends that still live. Nothing is impossible with God, so my faith allowed me to accept this possibility of spirit helpers without much trouble.”
Although she admitted that the spirit realm is still somewhat of a mystery to her, Miranda said she knows that everything “happens for a reason and that not one living person can place rules on how a human soul must behave after death.”
To sum it up, the 21-year-old added, “I still believe in a final resting place, but maybe some spirits are allowed to make a few stops along the way.”
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STORIES NEEDED:
If you have had a paranormal experience or know someone who has please contact me, as I would love to hear about it and perhaps feature the story in an upcoming issue of my monthly newsletter entitled Glimpses of the Paranormal. Please write to: marthajette@gmail.com. Aside from ghosts and hauntings, I also accept stories on related subjects such as witches, UFOs and crypto zoology, ESP, angels, past lives and reincarnation. Please put “Story for Newsletter” in the subject line.
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Miranda Clearwell of southeast Missouri was just a child when she first heard voices in her head and realized that there were “sparkling figures” around her or following her.
As she grew into a young girl, it became so natural to her that she thought everyone experienced these kinds of things.
“I just thought they were extra friends for me that I couldn’t see or talk to directly,” said Miranda.
But she soon learned that her friends at school didn’t have similar experiences and she found it very upsetting. In fact, her friends warned her that such entities must mean trouble and she should be careful.
“For a time, I thought I must be crazy,” Miranda explained. “None of my friends knew anything that could help me.” In fact she added, many of them “became upset with me.”
Her experiences began as a youngster, when she realized the presence of the entities and that things in her room would move around as well. Miranda said she could also sense a lot of negative energy in the family home and it would grow unusually dark.
“Even when the sun was coming through (a window), the house could become dark,” she explained adding that this frightened her. “That was when I started feeling a presence very strongly and then there were multiple presences.”
While most of the house gave her an eerie feeling, she said her own room felt “warm and safe.”
The first time Miranda actually saw a “sparkling figure,” she was 19 years old and it sat right on her bed!
“I could see his outline,” she said adding that he appeared to be about six feet tall and “wearing clothing that fit somewhat close to his body. It looked like smoky water,” but was easily recognizable as a man. It also looked like he was “radiating some of it… I couldn’t see anything within the outer lines of the body, so I didn’t see a face or eyes or colors. He was all clear.”
Miranda said he walked like a normal person and then “sat on the edge of my bed facing me, while I was standing up in the center of the room. Once I spotted him, I moved close enough to sit on the bed in front of him.”
At this point, she was very excited, because she had never actually seen a spirit before. She was also quite afraid.
“Of course, my heart was beating out of my chest because it was a little bit scary, but in a miraculous way.”
“When I raised my hands in front of me, he raised his own and touched them to mine.”
Miranda said his hands felt “almost like fuzzy liquid.”
“He stayed like that until my eyes blurred with tears and he was gone.”
Miranda said she was “surprised by the experience, but his simple gesture was very touching…”
Since then, she has seen as many as seven of these figures in her room at one time, but the problem is: she isn’t sure what or who they are or why they keep coming around her. Miranda said she has spoken to the entities and upon a number of occasions, asked questions and received the answers in her mind – answers that were later confirmed.
“Me and my little brother used to walk around that lot all the time and we’d find useless things like rusted washers, metal silverware and plenty of burned things.”
Just this past week, she learned from her mother that an elderly couple had lived there.
“The wife was considered an invalid and was stuck in a wheelchair. Her husband set the fire and left her inside knowing that she couldn’t get out. My mother said she died in that fire and that the man went to prison for murder.”
I suggested that perhaps these two people might be among the many spirits that seem to cling to her. Perhaps that dark entity is the husband. However, Miranda’s story suggests that she may also have spirit guides or even angels close to her. Not only do they help her with her problems, but they also bring her comfort.
“I feel so attached to these spirits now,” she said.
Her only desire is that she would like to learn to communicate more effectively with her visitors from the other side. If anyone has suggestions for her, please let me know.
As well, Miranda said the presence of spirits around her has caused her to re-evaluate her personal beliefs. As a child, she was raised as a Christian to believe that with death, one goes to either heaven or hell.
“That was what everyone wanted me to believe,” she said. “I was never raised to believe that souls could still wander the earth after death, so it was startling to see that something was following me around.”
Now, Miranda says she believes strongly in life after death.
“I do believe that the soul is eternal and I also believe that if a person still has something they need to accomplish, God could allow them to remain behind for a while.”
She also thinks God might allow certain souls to remain earthbound for a time “to watch over their relatives or friends that still live. Nothing is impossible with God, so my faith allowed me to accept this possibility of spirit helpers without much trouble.”
Although she admitted that the spirit realm is still somewhat of a mystery to her, Miranda said she knows that everything “happens for a reason and that not one living person can place rules on how a human soul must behave after death.”
To sum it up, the 21-year-old added, “I still believe in a final resting place, but maybe some spirits are allowed to make a few stops along the way.”
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STORIES NEEDED:
If you have had a paranormal experience or know someone who has please contact me, as I would love to hear about it and perhaps feature the story in an upcoming issue of my monthly newsletter entitled Glimpses of the Paranormal. Please write to: marthajette@gmail.com. Aside from ghosts and hauntings, I also accept stories on related subjects such as witches, UFOs and crypto zoology, ESP, angels, past lives and reincarnation. Please put “Story for Newsletter” in the subject line.
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Why are We Fascinated With Astrology?
November 3, 2009 by admin
Filed under Art And Entertainment
Ronald Eapen asked:
In the 1920’s, there was a big sensation in the US. Twosisters had photographed fairies flying around flowers in their garden. It was an unbelievable event. The two gave interviews and talked stuff. It was after more than sixty years that one sister revealed the whole thing was a hoax. The fairies were made of paper. Nonetheless they captured public imagination. It was something different and unbelievable, but was revealed a hoax later.
But thousands of paranormal and supernatural things remain the way they are- uncanny and unimaginable. No one has explanations. All the same, people love to know more and indulge in these pursuits. Very often we have astrologers predicting events. Most people love the opportunity to get one’s palm read by an astrologer.
Believe the stuff or scoff at it. But the whole idea is fascinating to humans. Many people read the headlines of a newspaper later, but read their horoscope first. Astrologers and fortune tellers may talk in deceptive and ambiguous terms. Knowing the same, people flock to them.
Science and scientists try a lot. They never come up with satisfying explanations to paranormal and psychic stuff. Human beings are a curious lot. Issues with explanations satisfy them. But things with no explanations fascinate them. Take this one. Former US presidents Abraham Lincoln and John F Kennedy – Kennedy’s life was very nearly a copy of Lincoln’s. Both became presidents after similar victories. Held office for nearly same number of days. Both were assassinated outside a theater near their car. The name of the killer was the same in both cases. These two incidents happened more than eighty years apart. Science does not have any explanation to this. People are intrigued by such happenings.
Human minds are adventurous. No wonder, why horror movies are so popular.
Everyone knows it’s all make believe. People still get white with fear inside cinemas and dream of ghosts for next few days. Calling spirits of dead people has become an industry in Britain. You have Gypsy ladies peering in a psychic glass ball and calling spirits of the dead people you want to get in contact with. Forget the common man, British aristocracy has been known to visit them more than anyone else.
Science-fiction -a word that sums up the topic. All the science-fiction novels, movies is make-believe. Nothing is real but every thing’s in a proper scientific way.
Giant spaceships, alien landings, UFOs kidnapping people all happen in science fiction. Actually there’s a group of people in US who claim to have been kidnapped by UFOs. They believe, they have had extra-terrestrial contact. What’s true, what’s not only time will tell.
Now if there were a time machine to travel in the future like in the movies…
In the 1920’s, there was a big sensation in the US. Twosisters had photographed fairies flying around flowers in their garden. It was an unbelievable event. The two gave interviews and talked stuff. It was after more than sixty years that one sister revealed the whole thing was a hoax. The fairies were made of paper. Nonetheless they captured public imagination. It was something different and unbelievable, but was revealed a hoax later.
But thousands of paranormal and supernatural things remain the way they are- uncanny and unimaginable. No one has explanations. All the same, people love to know more and indulge in these pursuits. Very often we have astrologers predicting events. Most people love the opportunity to get one’s palm read by an astrologer.
Believe the stuff or scoff at it. But the whole idea is fascinating to humans. Many people read the headlines of a newspaper later, but read their horoscope first. Astrologers and fortune tellers may talk in deceptive and ambiguous terms. Knowing the same, people flock to them.
Science and scientists try a lot. They never come up with satisfying explanations to paranormal and psychic stuff. Human beings are a curious lot. Issues with explanations satisfy them. But things with no explanations fascinate them. Take this one. Former US presidents Abraham Lincoln and John F Kennedy – Kennedy’s life was very nearly a copy of Lincoln’s. Both became presidents after similar victories. Held office for nearly same number of days. Both were assassinated outside a theater near their car. The name of the killer was the same in both cases. These two incidents happened more than eighty years apart. Science does not have any explanation to this. People are intrigued by such happenings.
Human minds are adventurous. No wonder, why horror movies are so popular.
Everyone knows it’s all make believe. People still get white with fear inside cinemas and dream of ghosts for next few days. Calling spirits of dead people has become an industry in Britain. You have Gypsy ladies peering in a psychic glass ball and calling spirits of the dead people you want to get in contact with. Forget the common man, British aristocracy has been known to visit them more than anyone else.
Science-fiction -a word that sums up the topic. All the science-fiction novels, movies is make-believe. Nothing is real but every thing’s in a proper scientific way.
Giant spaceships, alien landings, UFOs kidnapping people all happen in science fiction. Actually there’s a group of people in US who claim to have been kidnapped by UFOs. They believe, they have had extra-terrestrial contact. What’s true, what’s not only time will tell.
Now if there were a time machine to travel in the future like in the movies…
A Paranormal Books website–an online business example
martyettington asked:
My website is called M.K. Ettington Books (mkettingtonbooks.com) and is designed to showcase Spiritually related books and related products.
I decided to start write my own books on spiritual and metaphysics titles.
The first one I wrote was titled “Immortality: A History and How to Guide”.
Since it was a self published in both printed and digital forms I decided to setup a webpage for this book and bought a domain name for it (immortality.us.com).
In the months that followed I decided to add more related books on subjects like prophecy, happiness, enlightenment, and the paranormal usage of the scientific method.
As I wrote each book I also added a new webpage and domain name for each book then tied them all together.
This approach started to give me some related content on the same website so that if a visitor was interested in one topic they could see the other related pages and might buy those too.
I started selling a few books but the volume was still pretty low.
After a few months of writing and adding individual webpages I realized that I had an interesting theme and should start adding other related content.
At this point I started adding a series of categories in a left margin menu and populating those categories with products and services.
The categories included Immortaltiy, Prophecy, Happiness, and other related areas such as meditation, metaphysics, personal favorites and lots more.
The addition of these categories took my theme to a new level so that spiritual seekers could find multiple offerings related to the original core of books I was selling.
I got the additional products for these new categories by signing up as an affiliate for Amazon.com and Clickbank. Both these organizations offer thousands of products that you can resell and makes commissions up to 75% per sale.
I also bought some digital product packages like the IProfit Ebooks which gave me more products with full resale rights to offer on my site.
After that website expansion I realized I needed to spend more time on marketing my products and services.
(I was also reading a lot of websites and ebooks on how to improve and market websites at that time also.)
The new marketing work included publishing free ebooks, writing ezine articles, and the best one–setting up my own opt in mailing lists.
These lists have evolved into both email lists with lots of information and freebies, and ecourses on specific interests.
Although ECourses take some time to put together, they are very good to have.
In addition to providing useful free information and downloads to persons taking the ecourses, they also explain to those students why the product the ecourse is focused on have good value and they should consider purchasing.
I also started looking for good pay per click traffic generation sites. After trying several I found a really good low cost traffic generation program at 7Search.
Traffic increased on my site but I was still only getting sporadic sales.
Finally, I found that rewriting my webpages with a stronger orientation towards what readers interests and issues are was a key to generating stronger conversions of clicks to sales. This made my site profitable.
I also added additionalcontent such as links to many sites on Ebooks related to spirituality, and Paranormal Groups which lists many groups available on these subjects to let users build an online community in their interest areas.
In the process of educating myself I had developed a lot of interests in internet business and affiliate money generation tools, but these tools didn’t fit with my original website theme of “Paranormal Books and related areas”.
This was when I decided to launch a new website titled makingmoney.us.com/index_files/ecoursebus.htm)
Although I still have a lot of work to do in building sales and profitability I’ve learned several useful lessons:
1) It helps a lot to have your own products which you are excited about. This excitement comes through in your webpages to get prospective customers excited too.
2) Building a website theme around your core interests helps to build traffic which will also cross sell related products.
3) Opt in email lists are critical for building lists of subscribers who are interested in what you have and want to learn more. Most studies say you need to touch up people seven or more times before they will consider buying your products and services.
4) ECourses are wonderful value for both the students who signup and to make them aware of the benefits of your products and services.
5) A strong theme on your website which you can build the business around is a good idea. Think about this carefully before you start your website.
Good luck on starting your own profitable internet businesses.
Best Regards,
Marty Ettington
mkebooks@ecsassoc.com
http://mkettingtonbooks.com
My website is called M.K. Ettington Books (mkettingtonbooks.com) and is designed to showcase Spiritually related books and related products.
I decided to start write my own books on spiritual and metaphysics titles.
The first one I wrote was titled “Immortality: A History and How to Guide”.
Since it was a self published in both printed and digital forms I decided to setup a webpage for this book and bought a domain name for it (immortality.us.com).
In the months that followed I decided to add more related books on subjects like prophecy, happiness, enlightenment, and the paranormal usage of the scientific method.
As I wrote each book I also added a new webpage and domain name for each book then tied them all together.
This approach started to give me some related content on the same website so that if a visitor was interested in one topic they could see the other related pages and might buy those too.
I started selling a few books but the volume was still pretty low.
After a few months of writing and adding individual webpages I realized that I had an interesting theme and should start adding other related content.
At this point I started adding a series of categories in a left margin menu and populating those categories with products and services.
The categories included Immortaltiy, Prophecy, Happiness, and other related areas such as meditation, metaphysics, personal favorites and lots more.
The addition of these categories took my theme to a new level so that spiritual seekers could find multiple offerings related to the original core of books I was selling.
I got the additional products for these new categories by signing up as an affiliate for Amazon.com and Clickbank. Both these organizations offer thousands of products that you can resell and makes commissions up to 75% per sale.
I also bought some digital product packages like the IProfit Ebooks which gave me more products with full resale rights to offer on my site.
After that website expansion I realized I needed to spend more time on marketing my products and services.
(I was also reading a lot of websites and ebooks on how to improve and market websites at that time also.)
The new marketing work included publishing free ebooks, writing ezine articles, and the best one–setting up my own opt in mailing lists.
These lists have evolved into both email lists with lots of information and freebies, and ecourses on specific interests.
Although ECourses take some time to put together, they are very good to have.
In addition to providing useful free information and downloads to persons taking the ecourses, they also explain to those students why the product the ecourse is focused on have good value and they should consider purchasing.
I also started looking for good pay per click traffic generation sites. After trying several I found a really good low cost traffic generation program at 7Search.
Traffic increased on my site but I was still only getting sporadic sales.
Finally, I found that rewriting my webpages with a stronger orientation towards what readers interests and issues are was a key to generating stronger conversions of clicks to sales. This made my site profitable.
I also added additionalcontent such as links to many sites on Ebooks related to spirituality, and Paranormal Groups which lists many groups available on these subjects to let users build an online community in their interest areas.
In the process of educating myself I had developed a lot of interests in internet business and affiliate money generation tools, but these tools didn’t fit with my original website theme of “Paranormal Books and related areas”.
This was when I decided to launch a new website titled makingmoney.us.com/index_files/ecoursebus.htm)
Although I still have a lot of work to do in building sales and profitability I’ve learned several useful lessons:
1) It helps a lot to have your own products which you are excited about. This excitement comes through in your webpages to get prospective customers excited too.
2) Building a website theme around your core interests helps to build traffic which will also cross sell related products.
3) Opt in email lists are critical for building lists of subscribers who are interested in what you have and want to learn more. Most studies say you need to touch up people seven or more times before they will consider buying your products and services.
4) ECourses are wonderful value for both the students who signup and to make them aware of the benefits of your products and services.
5) A strong theme on your website which you can build the business around is a good idea. Think about this carefully before you start your website.
Good luck on starting your own profitable internet businesses.
Best Regards,
Marty Ettington
mkebooks@ecsassoc.com
http://mkettingtonbooks.com
Are You Looking to Make New Friends? Chummychums Can Make the Process of Making Friends Easier
Vikram kuamr asked:
It is quite often that many people find themselves losing touch with friends as their lives go in different directions. Whether you have moved to a new city or have simply drifted apart from childhood friends, many people have found themselves in need of new friendships. However, it is not that easy to make new friends.
When it comes to making friends, one cannot just walk down the street and introduce yourself to someone you deem to have lots in common to you. It’s not that easy. You can make friends at work or at school but it is ideal to meet people that have interests similar to yours. In turn, you will have a better relationship as you can do the things you mutually like together.
It is ideal to meet people that are a reflection of your own personality. For example, if you are someone who likes to stay in and watch movies, it is not ideal to look for a friend who frequents the nightlife and goes out every other day of the week. If you are a girly girl and likes to go to spas and get manis and pedis, it is better for you to search for someone who likes to do the same.
With the help of technology, it is now a lot easier to make new friends then it was 10 years ago. With all the new social networking sites that are currently available on the internet, making friends has become a lot less difficult.
However, you may want to find a site where all other members are also looking for friendship. It is not ideal to go to a dating site or a regular social network and begin requesting friendship from its members. You want to find a site that is catered specifically for people looking to make new friends.
It is now easy for women in particular to find friendship with other women online. At a website called Chummychums, women can now create profiles detailing all aspects of their personality, upload photos and begin their journey of making friends. They can browse profiles of women in their local area and filter friends out according to their interests. Women have the capability of showing their musical preferences, showing how frequently they enjoy the nightlife, whether or not they have children, and much more.
Here you will find other members looking for new buddies, just as you are. This is very important. Chummychums is also a platform for women to be able to interact and express themselves. Women can participate in forums and discuss issues that are important to them. They can also blog about themselves or any other topic they feel strongly about.
Chummychums provides all the means necessary to make new friends. Girl friends can contact each other via email messages, via chat rooms and even instant messenger. We all recognize that we need friends to share special moments in our lives with. On Chummychums, you will not have a difficult time making friends.
It is quite often that many people find themselves losing touch with friends as their lives go in different directions. Whether you have moved to a new city or have simply drifted apart from childhood friends, many people have found themselves in need of new friendships. However, it is not that easy to make new friends.
When it comes to making friends, one cannot just walk down the street and introduce yourself to someone you deem to have lots in common to you. It’s not that easy. You can make friends at work or at school but it is ideal to meet people that have interests similar to yours. In turn, you will have a better relationship as you can do the things you mutually like together.
It is ideal to meet people that are a reflection of your own personality. For example, if you are someone who likes to stay in and watch movies, it is not ideal to look for a friend who frequents the nightlife and goes out every other day of the week. If you are a girly girl and likes to go to spas and get manis and pedis, it is better for you to search for someone who likes to do the same.
With the help of technology, it is now a lot easier to make new friends then it was 10 years ago. With all the new social networking sites that are currently available on the internet, making friends has become a lot less difficult.
However, you may want to find a site where all other members are also looking for friendship. It is not ideal to go to a dating site or a regular social network and begin requesting friendship from its members. You want to find a site that is catered specifically for people looking to make new friends.
It is now easy for women in particular to find friendship with other women online. At a website called Chummychums, women can now create profiles detailing all aspects of their personality, upload photos and begin their journey of making friends. They can browse profiles of women in their local area and filter friends out according to their interests. Women have the capability of showing their musical preferences, showing how frequently they enjoy the nightlife, whether or not they have children, and much more.
Here you will find other members looking for new buddies, just as you are. This is very important. Chummychums is also a platform for women to be able to interact and express themselves. Women can participate in forums and discuss issues that are important to them. They can also blog about themselves or any other topic they feel strongly about.
Chummychums provides all the means necessary to make new friends. Girl friends can contact each other via email messages, via chat rooms and even instant messenger. We all recognize that we need friends to share special moments in our lives with. On Chummychums, you will not have a difficult time making friends.
Dating to Make Friends: An Alternative View
Jane Saeman asked:
Friends are not easy to find once you into a working environment. If you have childhood friends around that’s great, but many people move far away from where they grew up, and contact with those they used to confide in becomes increasingly difficult. Finding the time to meet new people, and then spend enough time to get to a level where you trust them enough to confide in isn’t easy, especially if you’re also looking for a partner and using your free time to date.
If you are someone who feels more comfortable with the opposite sex, then dating is a great way of making friends. There are very few people who date only one person and then commit to them for the rest of their lives. The usual scenario is that you date a number of people who have quite a lot of things in common with you, until you find the one that you really connect with on a deeper level. The fact that you have been on a personal, if not intimate, level with the people you date puts you in a good position to transition these once potential dates into friendships.
There’s a problem with this in that any future people you, or your ex date, go out with may not like the relationship and try to break it. This makes the friendship a little precarious, but as time passes, the bond of friendship and trust becomes one that both of you will be reluctant to break — both of you appreciating what you get from the platonic relationship — and so it becomes more secure. Even so, if you, or your friend, find a partner that they intend to make a permanent fixture in their lives your friendship together may have to be severed in order for that to happen.
Even if you’re not really interested in having a deeper relationship with someone, there’s nothing to stop you going out on casual dates. There are plenty of other people out there who enjoy having one-on-one time with another person without it having to lead to a “serious relationship”. You may get a reputation for being a habitual dater, but that’s just a label that someone who dates looking for a partner puts on it. There’s nothing wrong in using the dating scene as a social meeting arena! Make your intentions known up front and you’ll get to meet a number of people who have similar interests to your own, but aren’t going to expect anything other than friendship in return for the time spent together.
If a serious relationship isn’t what you’re looking for, but you would like to find a few more friends, trying some casual dating and you’ll meet some interesting people. You aren’t guaranteed to build a true friendship with any or all of them, but at the very least, you’ll have a good time exploring the possibility!
Friends are not easy to find once you into a working environment. If you have childhood friends around that’s great, but many people move far away from where they grew up, and contact with those they used to confide in becomes increasingly difficult. Finding the time to meet new people, and then spend enough time to get to a level where you trust them enough to confide in isn’t easy, especially if you’re also looking for a partner and using your free time to date.
If you are someone who feels more comfortable with the opposite sex, then dating is a great way of making friends. There are very few people who date only one person and then commit to them for the rest of their lives. The usual scenario is that you date a number of people who have quite a lot of things in common with you, until you find the one that you really connect with on a deeper level. The fact that you have been on a personal, if not intimate, level with the people you date puts you in a good position to transition these once potential dates into friendships.
There’s a problem with this in that any future people you, or your ex date, go out with may not like the relationship and try to break it. This makes the friendship a little precarious, but as time passes, the bond of friendship and trust becomes one that both of you will be reluctant to break — both of you appreciating what you get from the platonic relationship — and so it becomes more secure. Even so, if you, or your friend, find a partner that they intend to make a permanent fixture in their lives your friendship together may have to be severed in order for that to happen.
Even if you’re not really interested in having a deeper relationship with someone, there’s nothing to stop you going out on casual dates. There are plenty of other people out there who enjoy having one-on-one time with another person without it having to lead to a “serious relationship”. You may get a reputation for being a habitual dater, but that’s just a label that someone who dates looking for a partner puts on it. There’s nothing wrong in using the dating scene as a social meeting arena! Make your intentions known up front and you’ll get to meet a number of people who have similar interests to your own, but aren’t going to expect anything other than friendship in return for the time spent together.
If a serious relationship isn’t what you’re looking for, but you would like to find a few more friends, trying some casual dating and you’ll meet some interesting people. You aren’t guaranteed to build a true friendship with any or all of them, but at the very least, you’ll have a good time exploring the possibility!
