Francis Githinji asked:


Making friends is an art and, you will need to learn some of the things that it takes to get the art. The art of making friends unlike what many think is not complicated at all. You will need to look for vital tips that will actually guide you. To make good friends, we need to be guided and, the following are some of the secrets that will see you learn the art and make the friends that you want and deserve. First, before you say you deserve good friends, it is vital to look at what you are like. Your behavior and mannerisms are directly linked to the kind of people you draw in your life to be your friends. In other words, you will make friends who are just like you. The art of making good friends is about looking for good friends because you are worth good friends. There are no two ways about it and, you will see this to be true in your life. There are other factors that come to play while learning the art and they include the following.

The art of making friends will depend on the age you are at. Your gender will also shape the kind of friendships you get into. Above all, your personality is the key to make friends as we have mentioned earlier. If you are the kind of person who is introverted, the way you make friends will actually be different from the way others make friends. There are several things that will guide you on how exactly you can master the art of making friends in your life. After you have considered the kind of person you are, it is time to look at the areas in which you can improve. For example, if you realize that your traits cannot attract anybody, you can change and look for some virtue to incorporate in your life. This is a place where many fail and it has to do with changing. Many will pretend to be something they are not just to get into friendships that will later die. You must be true to yourself to look for real change if you want to make good friends.
The art of making friends will call to a realization that nobody is perfect. You will make good friends who will make mistakes. Mistakes help us to learn and move on. Therefore, when faced with problems, know that they are not unique to you. When you have this in mind, it is good for you to be friendly when you spot a potential friend. Many wait to meet friends by default. You have to take a deliberate step when looking for friends. However, it is good for you to take it easy not to force things. You cannot force yourself to be somebody’s friend and you will realize that it will take a mutual agreement before you take the relationship to a deeper level. The art is not complicated at all and there is one guide that will see you maintain the friendship in the manner you are supposed to. You should treat others the way you would want to be treated. When you keep this in mind, you will always make relationships you are proud of.

Vikram kuamr asked:


It is quite often that many people find themselves losing touch with friends as their lives go in different directions.  Whether you have moved to a new city or have simply drifted apart from childhood friends, many people have found themselves in need of new friendships.  However, it is not that easy to make new friends.

When it comes to making friends, one cannot just walk down the street and introduce yourself to someone you deem to have lots in common to you.  It’s not that easy.  You can make friends at work or at school but it is ideal to meet people that have interests similar to yours.  In turn, you will have a better relationship as you can do the things you mutually like together. 

It is ideal to meet people that are a reflection of your own personality.  For example, if you are someone who likes to stay in and watch movies, it is not ideal to look for a friend who frequents the nightlife and goes out every other day of the week.  If you are a girly girl and likes to go to spas and get manis and pedis, it is better for you to search for someone who likes to do the same.

With the help of technology, it is now a lot easier to make new friends then it was 10 years ago.  With all the new social networking sites that are currently available on the internet, making friends has become a lot less difficult. 

However, you may want to find a site where all other members are also looking for friendship.  It is not ideal to go to a dating site or a regular social network and begin requesting friendship from its members.  You want to find a site that is catered specifically for people looking to make new friends.

It is now easy for women in particular to find friendship with other women online.  At a website called Chummychums, women can now create profiles detailing all aspects of their personality, upload photos and begin their journey of making friends.  They can browse profiles of women in their local area and filter friends out according to their interests.  Women have the capability of showing their musical preferences, showing how frequently they enjoy the nightlife, whether or not they have children, and much more. 

Here you will find other members looking for new buddies, just as you are.  This is very important.  Chummychums is also a platform for women to be able to interact and express themselves.  Women can participate in forums and discuss issues that are important to them.  They can also blog about themselves or any other topic they feel strongly about. 

Chummychums provides all the means necessary to make new friends.  Girl friends can contact each other via email messages, via chat rooms and even instant messenger.  We all recognize that we need friends to share special moments in our lives with.  On Chummychums, you will not have a difficult time making friends.

Rachel Beavan asked:

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What is a Medium?

A medium communicates with a personality that endures beyond death.

Can anyone become a Medium?

All of us are part of the same spirit therefore we all have within the divine potential for service of communication with souls that cross over to the other side.   Yet from knowledge mediums have a certain make-up in order for the gifts to be unfolded & developed to the point where the spirit world can utilize them to there greatest potential.  We all have this ability yet may not have chosen in this life-time to work in this form, so therefore this is where you would have heard the term, ‘mediums are born & not created’.

What are Evidential Medium-ship sittings?

Evidential sittings are where the medium will communicate with a past loved one who will bring forth evidence of the existence of the after life.

Mental Medium-ship

What are Psychic Clairvoyant Medium-ship Sittings?

Psychic Clairvoyant Mediumship Sittings are where a medium will use all the below abilities to help bring guidance from the world of spirit.

Clairsentience (feeling)

Clairsentience is a form of extra sensory perception where a medium acquires knowledge by means of feeling.  It is an ability that can be obtained at advanced meditation levels. Clairsentience, empath & sensitive is a reference to a person who can feel the vibration of other people or the people in the spirit world. There are many different degrees of clairsentience ranging from the perception of diseases through sensing of others or the person we are communicating with in the world of spirit. To thoughts or emotions of other people again also relating to the souls that have passed over.  Slightly different from Clairvoyance but you get a very vivid feeling that can form into an image or picture.  Psychometry can also be related to clairsentience, which is a form of picking up psychic energy through feelings of a past event.

Clairvoyance (Clear Seeing)

Clairvoyance (from 17th century French with clair meaning “clear” and voyance meaning ” vision”) is used for the ability to gain information about an object, person, location or physical event through means other than the known human senses Visions may also be in the future, future and some times in the past.   a form of extra sensorty persception. A Medium will the ability is know to have the ability of clear seeing.   The process of clairvoyance involves attuning to the waves or vibrations of the universe & becoming part of it.  When a medium attunes themselves into this light trance of the waves of energy vibration, they see the visions and senses the situations humans do when they tune into a radio or TV station. A medium will then read and interpret them with the help of there clairsentience & clairaudiance.

Clairaudience (hearing)

Clairaudience is essentially the ability to hear in a paranormal manner, as opposed to paranormal seeing (clairvoyance) and feeling (clairsentience). Clairaudient people have psi-mediated hearing. Clairaudience may refer not to actual perception of sound, but may instead indicate impressions of the “inner mental ear” similar to the way many people think words without having auditory impressions this is a form of telepathy. But it may also refer to actual perception of sounds such as voices, tones, or noises which are not apparent to other humans or to recording equipment.

Clairalience (smelling)

Also known as Clairescence. Clairalience clairalienc is clear smelling which is a form of extra sensory perception wherein a person acquires knowledge by means of smelling.

Claircognizance (knowing)

Claircognizance is a clear knowing & is a form of extra sensory perception of intrinsic knowledge without physical explaination why you know it.

What is an aura reading?

An aura is a field of subtle, luminous radiation that surrounds a person or object    Each color of the aura has a precise meaning, indicating the emotional state & mental state of a person. A complete description of the Aura and its colors can be provided with the form of objective clairvoyance.

What is Trance Communication?

Trance medium-ship is where a companion/guide/mentor/teacher/guardian angel whichever term you wish to use will link with the medium very closely & come into the auric field.  The medium will lift vibrations & the companion will lower vibrations.  This creates an attunement activating a link mind to mind. You may also experience a past loved one who will with the assistance of the companions also use the voice box of the medium to bring forth love & guidance.

Mental Medium-ship.

What are Trance Communication Sittings?

Teaching from the spirit world offering words of wisdom to life’s questions.

What is Physical Medium-ship?

A Physical Medium is a medium that will go into a state of trance, whereby the group circle of spiritual companions in the spirit world that work alongside the medium will link into the mediums aura & mind to create physical phenomena through an abundance of etheric energy that surrounds the mediums physical body.    It is objective by nature & everyone is able to see or hear.  Certain elements of etheric matter should be present within the etheric vehicle of the medium to be able to produce physical phenomena.

What are Physical Medium-ship Demonstrations?

Very rare in mediums today but a form of ectoplasm is used for movement of objects, direct voice, transfiguration or full materialization.

Also other forms of physical medium-ship are raps & taps.

Physical Medium-ship

Ray Shane asked:


Unlike most animals, human beings are social creatures and human beings cannot think of a life without friends.  We all want some change and variety in our lives which can only be brought about by friends. Those who love to socialise a lot, do not feel complete unless they are hanging out with lots of friends and buddies. And then there are some who are more discerning in their tastes and like to be surrounded by a few very close friends.

But not many people know how to make friends or develop lasting and enduring friendships. In today’s cut throat busy world most people are busy with their demanding jobs. They hardly get the time to meet up or hang out with friends, the phone calls become fewer and far between and then comes a time when you just drift apart for no reason at all, or due to lack of time.

Another reason, why many people are friendless or feel lonely is because they are painfully shy, are scared of socialising with other people and become quite tongue tied when they have to meet new people. These are the people for whom all these friendship site/sites, making friends online sites, make friends online free sites have mushroomed on the internet.

If you do a search in the internet, you will find countless internet dating sites, speed dating sites, romantic dating sites and friendship website where you can sign up either for free or against a nominal charge. Then you have to create your profile. Take care to write out a brief but very interesting and creative and peppy description of yourself and make sure to add loads of humour.

A bit of sparkling witticism and humour will always make your profile more interesting than that of others and if you can portray yourself as a well rounded personality with diverse tastes and interests, then your chances of getting a good number of friends will become higher.

Another way of spicing up your profile is to add a number of attractive photographs of yours which should include both head shot photos as well as full bodied photographs. This will increase your chances of finding more friends. And of course you must write out your interests and preferences and hobbies in details. The golden rule is to avoid being boring.

When you receive friend requests, which will, start pouring in by the dozens very soon, you must accept them and in less than 2 weeks you shall have over a hundred friends on your friend list. You can regularly keep in touch with them through scraps or comments or scribbles on your scrapbook or you can send messages to each other.

Dr. Rita Louise asked:


Do you hear bumps in the night? Does your hair stand on end when you walk into a room? Maybe you feel as if someone is watching you or perhaps you think you see someone out the corner of your eye, but when you turn to look no one is there? What you may be encountering in those unsettling moments is a ghost. So before you go running out of your house screaming, let’s take a moment to talk about ghostly encounters and those that investigate this phenomena.

A ghost is believed to be the spirit or soul of a person who has remained on Earth after death. When a ghost has taken up residence in a location, it is referred to as a haunting. There are two different ways in which a ghost inhabits a location. The most common type of haunting is a residual haunting. A residual haunting is typified by ghostly energy that is static or goes through a number of movements over and over again. It can be likened to watching a movie clip that repeats itself or a record album that has a skip in it, causing the needle to jump back to an earlier point on the album and begin again.

The second classification of haunting is the classic haunting. In a classic haunting the ghost displays intelligence and interacts with the people in the environment. It is not uncommon during a classic haunting for items to be moved around, for lights or electrical appliances to turn on and off, to hear voices our sounds out of nowhere or to be touched, tickled, stroked or even shoved. These ghosts often reflect the personality of an individual, even after their death. With this type of haunting, the aroma of flowers, perfume, cigarette smoke or other scents that are associated with the individual are often detected.

So whether you think you are being haunted by a ghost and want to have a group of trained professionals to come to your home or are interested in investigating all that goes bump in the night, but don’t know where to begin, here’s some information that can help you get started.

It is held that ghosts are electro-magnetic in origin and they create these fields when trying to manifest into this dimension. The energy that is given off by a ghost causes disruptions in the locations magnetic field, thus making it detectable by specialized equipment and psychics alike.

Because the presence of a ghost can be detected by specific types of equipment, a ghost hunter can become well equipped with a number of affordable pieces of equipment, many of which you may already own. From basic to advanced, there are many different types of equipment you can use to detect an otherworldly presence. For someone thinking about participating in an investigation, this doesn’t mean you have to own every piece of equipment in order to perform a reliable investigation. It does mean that you should at least possess a basic set of tools to use.

Basic Equipment

35mm or Digital Camera For a beginner, having a camera is probably the easiest and least expensive way to begin. Pictures, whether digital or recorded on film can capture paranormal activity, activity that is often invisible to the ***** eye. This is especially true in the case of documenting the presence of orbs and ectoplasm.

Notebook & Pen or Pencil Simple as this may be, it is always a good idea to have something to record any notes, findings or experiences you may have during an investigation.

Flashlight Many times an investigation will take you to a dark or foreboding location such as a cemetery, old warehouse, abandoned building or other place that is dark or without electricity. In these instances you will need to have a portable light source.

Extra Batteries Depending on the paranormal activity of a location, batteries oftentimes will mysteriously and unexpectedly lose their charge leaving you in the dark. Regardless of the type of equipment you use, make sure you bring extra batteries along to replenish depleted ones.

Intermediate Equipment

EMF Detector The Electromagnetic Field Detector is probably one of the most important pieces of equipment to own if you are serious about doing an investigation. In addition to detecting the energy fields of ghosts, it is a key tool to use when taking baseline readings of a site. A baseline reading is a preliminary evaluation of a location, where investigators identify any existing or man made electromagnetic fields such as those created by power lines or electrical appliances.

Digital Video Camera Video cameras can be a useful investigation tool. Unlike still cameras, a video camera will document any activity in its entirety including the length of time the phenomena occurs, the surrounding conditions, as well as the phenomena itself. A tripod to rest the video camera on is also helpful, especially if it is going to be left in a stationary position to record the activity in a specific location.

Tape Recorder with an External Microphone There is no better way to capture EVP’s (electronic voice phenomena) than through the use of a tape recorder. Whether using a traditional tape recorder with high quality tapes or a digital recorder, an external microphone should always be used. A detached mic will eliminate the sounds of internal gears and turning wheels that can contaminate your recording.

Advanced Equipment

Motion Detectors Motion detectors can be used to sense the movement of unseen forces. Many need to be plugged in to an outlet, but battery operated ones are also available. Before you go out and buy one, decide which type will best support you investigatory needs.

Thermal Scanner A thermal scanner or non-contact thermometer can be used to detect rapid temperature changes. A change of ten degrees or more from the ambient temperature (the temperature of the surrounding area) can indicate an ethereal presence.

Psychics As An Investigative Tool

In addition to tools such as cameras, meters and gauges that are used by ghost hunters, many groups also utilize the services of trained psychics as a means of gathering information about a site. This is the role I play when working with ghost hunting groups.

Finding a true psychic to work with can be a real asset to the quality of your investigation. They can play an invaluable role in supporting the efforts of any paranormal investigation. Like a good piece of equipment, a psychic can help to detect anomalies as well as provide additional insights into the nature of activity encountered.

If your group decides to include the use of a psychic as part of the investigation team, there are a few items that should be considered. To maximize the objectivity of the investigation, it is critical that the psychic go into a location “cold”. This means that they do not know the details of the location or of any activity that may have been encountered by other members or the property owner. Telling the psychic the history of a property can cause the individual to become “contaminated”, which can make it difficult for them to differentiate what they perceive from what they have been told.

Conducting An Investigation

With at least a basic kit of equipment in hand, you are now ready to explore the world of paranormal phenomena. Before you begin, there are a few ground rules to consider. First, never go on an investigation alone, in addition to personal safety, you never know what may happen. Next, consider the fact that ghost hunting groups are often judged by their behavior and professionalism so always try to be respectful of the people, places and situations you may encounter.

To do an investigation, the first step is to select a location. Locations can include cemeteries, old buildings, historic sites, private homes and businesses. Always get permission to be on a site. This will keep you from getting in trouble for trespassing. Before you begin a formal investigation it is a good idea to do some research on the site. Talk to the owner, check out old newspapers, or contact the local historic society to see if anything happened there in the past. It is also a good idea to evaluate the terrain for potential hazards or/or to identify places where you can setup stationary video cameras, motion detectors or tape recorders.

Most investigations occur after dark, between the hours of 9pm and 6am. These hours are considered the “psychic hours” and are believed to be the best time to record paranormal activity.

When you get to the selected location, walk around to get a feel for it. Next, set up any stationary equipment and take baseline readings of the site. Then let the investigation begin. Take pictures, shoot video, record for EVP and take meter readings. Take them everywhere and anywhere, especially if you feel something or get a reading on another piece of equipment. When you are done walking around a site, turn your stationary equipment on and let it run while you and your group are out of the area.

When you have finished collecting your data, it is time for analysis. Here each picture, video and tape is reviewed for evidence of a haunting. This is probably the most important part of any investigation. As you review your materials, be skeptical. Look for earthly causes of any phenomena. Was someone smoking in the area? Was the room or location dusty? Where there reflective surfaces that could be the cause of the anomaly in your image? It is important to make sure your evidence will stand up to scrutiny by eliminating any other explanations. This will give your data more credibility.

As you pore over your data, what you will find is that not every location you go to will have ghostly activity. You may discover that many of the things you initially detected during your investigation actually have real world explanations as opposed to supernatural ones. What keeps many ghost hunters going is that one-in-five chance that this investigation will be the “real” thing.

When your analysis is done, presenting your finding to the home or property owner or sharing your results with others is often done. Many groups also post the results of their investigations on their group’s website, thus share the outcome of their investigation with the rest of the world.

If you are interested in ghost hunting or think your have a ghost hanging around in your local, there is a plethora of information available on the worldwide web. Here you can find articles about ghost hunting in general, stories of other people’s ghostly encounters, places that sell ghost hunting equipment and even sites hosted by ghost hunting groups in your geographic area.

So if you think you are hearing bumps in the night, don’t be afraid it just might be a ghost!

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